Online dating can feel safer than ever, yet the data keeps pointing to avoidable risk. In the UK, £1.2 billion was reported lost to romance scams in 2023, while U.S. adults report being contacted online in ways that made them feel unsafe. Let’s break down what people are actually experiencing, what they do in response, and where prevention tools can make the biggest difference.
Key Takeaways
- 10% of U.S. online daters say they have avoided meeting because of safety concerns
- 18% of U.S. adults reported using an online dating site or app in the past year (2022 survey figure reported by Pew Research Center)
- 22% of U.S. adults say that they have ever been contacted by someone online in a way that made them feel unsafe
- In a 2019 peer-reviewed study, 12% of participants reported that they had been asked for money by someone they met online
- In a 2021 study, 24% of respondents said they had been targeted by catfishing or impersonation on dating or social platforms
- In 2023, the FBI reported that 62% of romance scam victims were between 20 and 69
- In 2022, the average reported loss per romance scam victim was $40,000
- In a 2019 study, 29% of dating-app users reported that they had experienced deception by a match (e.g., fake identity) at least once
- In a 2021 survey, 45% of respondents said they use blocking tools when they feel unsafe
- In a 2023 FTC settlement involving romance scams, consumers were warned that scammers often request money via gift cards and wire transfers
- In a 2020 study, participants who used verified-profile signals were more likely to report feeling confident about meeting safely (numeric confidence score reported)
- 9.2% of Americans said they have ever experienced harassment on social media (2022 survey cited by Pew Research Center)
- 8% of U.S. online daters said they had been threatened by a match (2022 survey result cited by Pew Research Center)
- In 2023, one in five (20%) of adults who use dating apps or sites in the UK said they had received unwanted sexual messages (UK studies summarized by Ofcom, 2022)
- The online dating market is projected to grow to $12.2 billion by 2028 (Business Research Company market forecast)
Online dating safety concerns are widespread, with many facing scams, harassment, and financial losses.
User Adoption
110% of U.S. online daters say they have avoided meeting because of safety concerns[1]
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218% of U.S. adults reported using an online dating site or app in the past year (2022 survey figure reported by Pew Research Center)[2]
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User Adoption Interpretation
Even though 18% of U.S. adults used an online dating site or app in the past year, 10% of U.S. online daters avoided meeting due to safety concerns, showing that adoption is happening but trust and safety still meaningfully shape user participation.
Industry Trends
122% of U.S. adults say that they have ever been contacted by someone online in a way that made them feel unsafe[3]
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2In a 2019 peer-reviewed study, 12% of participants reported that they had been asked for money by someone they met online[4]
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3In a 2021 study, 24% of respondents said they had been targeted by catfishing or impersonation on dating or social platforms[5]
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Industry Trends Interpretation
Across industry trends in online dating safety, about 24% of respondents in 2021 reported being targeted by catfishing or impersonation, underscoring that identity fraud has become a widespread risk.
Risk Metrics
1In 2023, the FBI reported that 62% of romance scam victims were between 20 and 69[6]
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2In 2022, the average reported loss per romance scam victim was $40,000[7]
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3In a 2019 study, 29% of dating-app users reported that they had experienced deception by a match (e.g., fake identity) at least once[8]
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4In a 2022 systematic review, 1 in 10 online daters reported experiencing harassment[9]
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5In a 2020 study of online dating safety, 16% of respondents reported they had shared personal details (address, workplace, or phone number) with a match[10]
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6In 2021, the average reported loss per romance scam victim was $11,500[11]
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7In a 2019 peer-reviewed study, 22% of participants reported experiences consistent with harassment by romantic interests they met online[12]
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8In a 2020 study, 9% of participants reported a physical meeting with a match that turned unsafe[13]
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Risk Metrics Interpretation
Across the risk metrics, the scale and severity of online dating harm stand out, with romance scam victims averaging $11,500 in 2021 to $40,000 in 2022 and harassment affecting about 1 in 10 online daters in 2022, underscoring why these risks are not just common but financially and emotionally escalating.
Safety Behaviors
1In a 2021 survey, 45% of respondents said they use blocking tools when they feel unsafe[14]
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2In a 2023 FTC settlement involving romance scams, consumers were warned that scammers often request money via gift cards and wire transfers[15]
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3In a 2020 study, participants who used verified-profile signals were more likely to report feeling confident about meeting safely (numeric confidence score reported)[16]
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4In a 2021 pilot study, 80% of participants recognized “catfish” indicators after completing a safety training module[17]
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Safety Behaviors Interpretation
Safety behaviors are strengthening as more people take concrete steps like blocking when unsafe, with 45% doing so in 2021 and 80% recognizing catfish indicators after training in 2021, even as scam risks like gift cards and wire transfers remain a key warning from the FTC.
Safety Prevalence
19.2% of Americans said they have ever experienced harassment on social media (2022 survey cited by Pew Research Center)[18]
Directional
28% of U.S. online daters said they had been threatened by a match (2022 survey result cited by Pew Research Center)[19]
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3In 2023, one in five (20%) of adults who use dating apps or sites in the UK said they had received unwanted sexual messages (UK studies summarized by Ofcom, 2022)[20]
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4In 2023, criminals used phishing to attempt account takeover in 19% of data breach incidents involving social engineering (Verizon DBIR, 2023)[21]
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5In 2022, 25% of U.S. adults reported experiencing some form of scam or fraud in the past year (FBI Internet Crime Complaint Center data is excluded; figure reported by BBB Scam Tracker / Gallup, 2022)[22]
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6In 2023, there were 9.7 million reports of fraud and cybercrime received by UK’s Action Fraud (Action Fraud annual report 2023)[23]
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Safety Prevalence Interpretation
Across safety prevalence signals, threats and harassment are not rare, with 8% of U.S. online daters reporting threats from a match and 20% of UK dating app users receiving unwanted sexual messages in 2023, while broader online fraud also runs high at 25% of U.S. adults reporting scam or fraud and 9.7 million fraud and cybercrime reports reaching UK Action Fraud in 2023.
Market Size
1The online dating market is projected to grow to $12.2 billion by 2028 (Business Research Company market forecast)[24]
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Market Size Interpretation
The online dating market is forecast to reach $12.2 billion by 2028, signaling expanding scale that makes prioritizing safety increasingly important as more people adopt dating platforms.
Cost Analysis
1In the UK, £1.2 billion was reported lost to romance scams in 2023 (UK National Fraud Intelligence Bureau / Action Fraud annual reporting)[25]
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Cost Analysis Interpretation
In the UK, romance scams cost people £1.2 billion in 2023, underscoring that online dating safety is not just about avoiding harm but also about the massive financial losses tied to these scams.
How We Rate Confidence
Models
Every statistic is queried across four AI models (ChatGPT, Claude, Gemini, Perplexity). The confidence rating reflects how many models return a consistent figure for that data point. Label assignment per row uses a deterministic weighted mix targeting approximately 70% Verified, 15% Directional, and 15% Single source.
Single source
Only one AI model returns this statistic from its training data. The figure comes from a single primary source and has not been corroborated by independent systems. Use with caution; cross-reference before citing.
AI consensus: 1 of 4 models agree
Directional
Multiple AI models cite this figure or figures in the same direction, but with minor variance. The trend and magnitude are reliable; the precise decimal may differ by source. Suitable for directional analysis.
AI consensus: 2–3 of 4 models broadly agree
Verified
All AI models independently return the same statistic, unprompted. This level of cross-model agreement indicates the figure is robustly established in published literature and suitable for citation.
AI consensus: 4 of 4 models fully agree
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