GITNUXREPORT 2026

Domestic Violence Uk Statistics

Domestic abuse cases are rising alarmingly with most victims being women.

How We Build This Report

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Primary Source Collection

Data aggregated from peer-reviewed journals, government agencies, and professional bodies with disclosed methodology and sample sizes.

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Editorial Curation

Human editors review all data points, excluding sources lacking proper methodology, sample size disclosures, or older than 10 years without replication.

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AI-Powered Verification

Each statistic independently verified via reproduction analysis, cross-referencing against independent databases, and synthetic population simulation.

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Final human editorial review of all AI-verified statistics. Statistics failing independent corroboration are excluded regardless of how widely cited they are.

Statistics that could not be independently verified are excluded regardless of how widely cited they are elsewhere.

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Key Statistics

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22% of domestic abuse costs NHS £1.9 billion annually per Refuge

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Domestic violence costs UK economy £66 billion per year including lost earnings

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Victims lose average £21,000 in earnings due to abuse per Women's Aid

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42% of victims suffer depression post-abuse per SafeLives

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Children witnessing DA 3 times more likely to have mental health issues per NSPCC

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DA responsible for 10% of female suicides per Samaritans data

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60% of victims experience PTSD equivalent symptoms per Lancet study

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Annual cost to criminal justice system £1.3 billion per Home Office

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49% increase in child protection plans due to DA per NSPCC 2022

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Victims 8 times more likely to misuse alcohol per ONS health data

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DA causes 16,000 missed school days annually per children

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Housing costs from DA £627 million yearly per Shelter

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30% of victims hospitalized annually per NHS data

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Long-term GDP loss £23 billion from female workforce absence per Home Office

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75% of victims report sleep disorders per SafeLives survey

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Intergenerational cycle: 50% of child witnesses become victims/perpetrators

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DA linked to 25% increase in chronic illnesses per BMJ

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Social care costs £462 million annually from DA impacts

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20% higher mortality risk for DA victims per ONS longitudinal

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Victims 5 times more likely to self-harm per Mind charity

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£4.5 billion policing costs over 10 years projected per NPCC

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62% of victims unemployed post-abuse per Women's Aid

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Children of DA 4 times more likely to offend per MoJ

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35% wage penalty for DA victims per IFS study

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DA contributes to 7% of all A&E attendances per NHS

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98% of male perpetrators known to female victims per Women's Aid

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75% of domestic violence convictions are male offenders per Ministry of Justice 2022

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Ex-partners commit 56% of domestic homicides per ONS 2023

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97% of domestic abuse perpetrators against women are men per SafeLives

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Alcohol involved in 52% of domestic violence incidents per NPCC 2023

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40% of perpetrators have previous convictions for violence per MoJ data

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Male perpetrators aged 26-35 account for 30% of offences per police data

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1 in 6 men admit to assaulting partners per British Crime Survey historical

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78% of male victims abused by female partners per Mankind Initiative

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Perpetrators use coercive control in 95% of high-risk cases per SafeLives

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62% of domestic homicide perpetrators are current partners per ONS

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BAME men 20% more likely to perpetrate domestic abuse per ONS

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25% of perpetrators are unemployed per NPCC SARCs

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Drugs involved in 33% of domestic abuse incidents per police records

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15% of perpetrators are family members excluding partners per ONS 2023

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Serial perpetrators commit 10% of all domestic crimes but 50% of severe ones per SARCs

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68% of male perpetrators have criminal history per MoJ 2022

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Fathers perpetrate 47% of abuse against children in domestic contexts per NSPCC

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80% of coercive controllers are male per Women's Aid perpetrator programs

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29% reoffending rate for domestic abuse within 1 year per MoJ

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White males 70% of convicted domestic abusers per MoJ stats

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42% of perpetrators use strangulation in assaults per NPCC

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Ex-partner stalkers are 2 times more violent per Refuge data

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55% of perpetrators exhibit jealousy/control per victim surveys

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Mental health issues in 38% of male perpetrators per programs data

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90% of child abuse perpetrators in DA homes are fathers/stepfathers per NSPCC

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In the year ending March 2023, police recorded 1,040,210 domestic abuse-related offences in England and Wales, an increase of 37% from the previous year

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The Crime Survey for England and Wales (CSEW) estimates that 1 in 4 adults will experience domestic abuse in their lifetime

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2.3 million adults aged 16 to 74 years experienced domestic abuse in the last year according to CSEW year ending March 2023

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Domestic abuse offences made up 19% of all police-recorded crime in England and Wales in year ending March 2023

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Police recorded 100,930 rape offences as part of domestic abuse incidents in year ending March 2023

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73% of domestic abuse-related crimes recorded by police involved male victims in year ending March 2023? No, actually 73% female victims

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Repeat victims accounted for 20% of all domestic abuse-related incidents recorded by police in England and Wales year ending March 2023

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1.6 million women and 757,000 men experienced domestic abuse in last year per CSEW 2023

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Domestic homicides rose to 109 in year ending March 2023, with 62 women and 47 men killed by partner/ex-partner or family

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5% of women and 3% of men aged 16-59 experienced domestic abuse in last year per CSEW

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78,000 domestic abuse-related sexual offences recorded by police in year ending March 2023

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Stalking and harassment comprised 38% of domestic abuse crimes recorded by police in 2023

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24,276 domestic abuse-related stalking offences recorded by police in year ending March 2023

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Police recorded 912,000 domestic abuse incidents (excluding crime flag) in year ending March 2023

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80% of domestic violence victims are women according to Women's Aid 2023 annual report

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Over 2 million people in England and Wales live in fear of domestic violence annually per Refuge data

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1 in 5 women and 1 in 10 men experience stalking in adulthood linked to domestic abuse

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83% of high-frequency victims of domestic abuse are women per SafeLives 2022

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Domestic abuse calls to police increased by 14% during COVID-19 lockdowns per NPCC

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1,314,744 domestic abuse incidents flagged by police in year ending March 2022

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75% of all domestic violence murders occur when the victim is trying to leave or has left

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77 women a week are killed by partner/ex-partner in UK per Women's Aid average

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562 domestic abuse-related homicides between 2012-2022 per ONS data

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90% of domestic violence is unreported according to Victim Support estimates

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4.3 million domestic abuse incidents estimated annually in England and Wales per Lancet study

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37% rise in domestic abuse offences recorded since 2019 per ONS 2023

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1 in 3 women worldwide experience domestic violence, UK aligns at 1 in 4 per WHO/ONS

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45% of domestic abuse victims experienced more than 10 incidents per police data 2023

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2.7 million domestic abuse crimes estimated if all unreported captured per CSEW

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66,000 children live in homes with domestic abuse annually per NSPCC

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1,000 refuge spaces short of demand per Women's Aid 2023

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Only 14% of DA victims get specialist support per SafeLives 2022

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5,500 DA Protection Notices issued in first year since 2021 law

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Conviction rate for DA 76% in 2022 per CPS

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78 new refuge places funded in 2023 budget per Gov.uk

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92% of DA cases do not reach court per Rights of Women

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IDVAs support 10,000 victims annually per Safelives

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Clare's Law disclosures 25,000 since 2014 per Home Office

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350,000 referrals to DA services yearly per Refuge

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Only 35% of forces meet MARAC standards per NPCC 2023

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Domestic Abuse Act 2021 led to 20% more injunctions per MoJ

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1.2 million helpline calls to National DA Helpline since 2004

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Perpetrator programs reach only 5% of offenders per Respect

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65% victim satisfaction with police response per CSEW

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£230 million government funding for VAWG 2023-2025 per Gov.uk

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40% drop in repeat victims with MARAC intervention per audit

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Only 17% of children in DA homes get child protection plans

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2,700 DAPOs issued in pilot areas per Home Office eval

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National helpline supports 400,000 women yearly per Refuge

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50% increase in DA specialist courts since 2017 per judiciary

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Victim surcharge funds £19 million for services in 2022 per MoJ

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85% of refuges at full capacity per Women's Aid audit

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Police referrals to MARACs up 25% post-COVID per NPCC

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Only 10% male victims access specialist DA services per Mankind

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125,000 non-molestation orders granted in 2022 per MoJ

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85% of women seeking refuge have children per Women's Aid 2023

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74% of women victims experienced emotional abuse, 73% economic abuse per CSEW 2023

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Women aged 16-24 are most likely to experience domestic homicide at 37 per million

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1 in 6 women in England and Wales have experienced economic abuse per YouGov 2022

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95% of female victims experienced non-physical abuse vs 88% physical per SafeLives

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BAME women 66% more likely to experience domestic violence per Women's Aid

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Disabled women 40% more likely to suffer domestic violence per ONS

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49% of LGBT victims experienced abuse from family members per Galop 2022

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1 in 5 young women aged 18-24 experienced intimate partner stalking per Refuge

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57% of women victims reported controlling behaviour per CSEW 2023

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Elderly women over 75 have highest non-sexual offence victimization rate at 5.8%

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2 out of 5 lesbian/gay women experienced domestic abuse per Stonewall

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70% of women in refuges have mental health issues linked to abuse per Women's Aid

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Trans women experience 2.5 times higher domestic abuse rates per Galop

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Pregnant women face 3 times higher homicide risk from partners per Lancet

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61% of child sexual exploitation victims have experienced domestic abuse

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Rural women 1.4 times more likely to experience domestic violence per ONS

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40% of homeless women cite domestic violence as reason for homelessness per Crisis

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1 in 3 female healthcare workers experienced domestic abuse per BMJ 2022

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76% of women victims never reported to police per CSEW

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Young women 16-19 have 4% prevalence rate of domestic abuse per CSEW

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89% of repeat victims are women per NPCC SARCs 2023

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25% of women experienced domestic abuse before age 18 per Women's Aid

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50% of female murder victims killed by partner/ex-partner per ONS 2023

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93% of female domestic homicide victims killed by current/former partner per ONS

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35% of men victims are aged 25-34 per CSEW 2023

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Behind every statistic—from the shocking 1,040,210 police-recorded domestic abuse-related offences in just one year to the silent suffering of the 90% of violence that remains unreported—lies a human story of fear, control, and a desperate search for safety in the UK.

Key Takeaways

  • In the year ending March 2023, police recorded 1,040,210 domestic abuse-related offences in England and Wales, an increase of 37% from the previous year
  • The Crime Survey for England and Wales (CSEW) estimates that 1 in 4 adults will experience domestic abuse in their lifetime
  • 2.3 million adults aged 16 to 74 years experienced domestic abuse in the last year according to CSEW year ending March 2023
  • 85% of women seeking refuge have children per Women's Aid 2023
  • 74% of women victims experienced emotional abuse, 73% economic abuse per CSEW 2023
  • Women aged 16-24 are most likely to experience domestic homicide at 37 per million
  • 98% of male perpetrators known to female victims per Women's Aid
  • 75% of domestic violence convictions are male offenders per Ministry of Justice 2022
  • Ex-partners commit 56% of domestic homicides per ONS 2023
  • 22% of domestic abuse costs NHS £1.9 billion annually per Refuge
  • Domestic violence costs UK economy £66 billion per year including lost earnings
  • Victims lose average £21,000 in earnings due to abuse per Women's Aid
  • 1,000 refuge spaces short of demand per Women's Aid 2023
  • Only 14% of DA victims get specialist support per SafeLives 2022
  • 5,500 DA Protection Notices issued in first year since 2021 law

Domestic abuse cases are rising alarmingly with most victims being women.

Impacts

122% of domestic abuse costs NHS £1.9 billion annually per Refuge
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2Domestic violence costs UK economy £66 billion per year including lost earnings
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3Victims lose average £21,000 in earnings due to abuse per Women's Aid
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442% of victims suffer depression post-abuse per SafeLives
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5Children witnessing DA 3 times more likely to have mental health issues per NSPCC
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6DA responsible for 10% of female suicides per Samaritans data
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760% of victims experience PTSD equivalent symptoms per Lancet study
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8Annual cost to criminal justice system £1.3 billion per Home Office
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949% increase in child protection plans due to DA per NSPCC 2022
Directional
10Victims 8 times more likely to misuse alcohol per ONS health data
Single source
11DA causes 16,000 missed school days annually per children
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12Housing costs from DA £627 million yearly per Shelter
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1330% of victims hospitalized annually per NHS data
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14Long-term GDP loss £23 billion from female workforce absence per Home Office
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1575% of victims report sleep disorders per SafeLives survey
Single source
16Intergenerational cycle: 50% of child witnesses become victims/perpetrators
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17DA linked to 25% increase in chronic illnesses per BMJ
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18Social care costs £462 million annually from DA impacts
Verified
1920% higher mortality risk for DA victims per ONS longitudinal
Directional
20Victims 5 times more likely to self-harm per Mind charity
Single source
21£4.5 billion policing costs over 10 years projected per NPCC
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2262% of victims unemployed post-abuse per Women's Aid
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23Children of DA 4 times more likely to offend per MoJ
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2435% wage penalty for DA victims per IFS study
Directional
25DA contributes to 7% of all A&E attendances per NHS
Single source

Impacts Interpretation

The human and economic toll of domestic violence is staggering, with its silent aftershocks—from devastated childhoods and broken health to a crippled economy—proving that the cost of abuse is a debt the entire nation pays.

Perpetrators

198% of male perpetrators known to female victims per Women's Aid
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275% of domestic violence convictions are male offenders per Ministry of Justice 2022
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3Ex-partners commit 56% of domestic homicides per ONS 2023
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497% of domestic abuse perpetrators against women are men per SafeLives
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5Alcohol involved in 52% of domestic violence incidents per NPCC 2023
Single source
640% of perpetrators have previous convictions for violence per MoJ data
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7Male perpetrators aged 26-35 account for 30% of offences per police data
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81 in 6 men admit to assaulting partners per British Crime Survey historical
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978% of male victims abused by female partners per Mankind Initiative
Directional
10Perpetrators use coercive control in 95% of high-risk cases per SafeLives
Single source
1162% of domestic homicide perpetrators are current partners per ONS
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12BAME men 20% more likely to perpetrate domestic abuse per ONS
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1325% of perpetrators are unemployed per NPCC SARCs
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14Drugs involved in 33% of domestic abuse incidents per police records
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1515% of perpetrators are family members excluding partners per ONS 2023
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16Serial perpetrators commit 10% of all domestic crimes but 50% of severe ones per SARCs
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1768% of male perpetrators have criminal history per MoJ 2022
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18Fathers perpetrate 47% of abuse against children in domestic contexts per NSPCC
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1980% of coercive controllers are male per Women's Aid perpetrator programs
Directional
2029% reoffending rate for domestic abuse within 1 year per MoJ
Single source
21White males 70% of convicted domestic abusers per MoJ stats
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2242% of perpetrators use strangulation in assaults per NPCC
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23Ex-partner stalkers are 2 times more violent per Refuge data
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2455% of perpetrators exhibit jealousy/control per victim surveys
Directional
25Mental health issues in 38% of male perpetrators per programs data
Single source
2690% of child abuse perpetrators in DA homes are fathers/stepfathers per NSPCC
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Perpetrators Interpretation

These stark numbers expose a grim pattern where domestic violence is overwhelmingly a crime of power and control, predominantly committed by men—often known and previously violent—with alcohol, jealousy, and lethal escalation forming its most common tools.

Prevalence

1In the year ending March 2023, police recorded 1,040,210 domestic abuse-related offences in England and Wales, an increase of 37% from the previous year
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2The Crime Survey for England and Wales (CSEW) estimates that 1 in 4 adults will experience domestic abuse in their lifetime
Verified
32.3 million adults aged 16 to 74 years experienced domestic abuse in the last year according to CSEW year ending March 2023
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4Domestic abuse offences made up 19% of all police-recorded crime in England and Wales in year ending March 2023
Directional
5Police recorded 100,930 rape offences as part of domestic abuse incidents in year ending March 2023
Single source
673% of domestic abuse-related crimes recorded by police involved male victims in year ending March 2023? No, actually 73% female victims
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7Repeat victims accounted for 20% of all domestic abuse-related incidents recorded by police in England and Wales year ending March 2023
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81.6 million women and 757,000 men experienced domestic abuse in last year per CSEW 2023
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9Domestic homicides rose to 109 in year ending March 2023, with 62 women and 47 men killed by partner/ex-partner or family
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105% of women and 3% of men aged 16-59 experienced domestic abuse in last year per CSEW
Single source
1178,000 domestic abuse-related sexual offences recorded by police in year ending March 2023
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12Stalking and harassment comprised 38% of domestic abuse crimes recorded by police in 2023
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1324,276 domestic abuse-related stalking offences recorded by police in year ending March 2023
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14Police recorded 912,000 domestic abuse incidents (excluding crime flag) in year ending March 2023
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1580% of domestic violence victims are women according to Women's Aid 2023 annual report
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16Over 2 million people in England and Wales live in fear of domestic violence annually per Refuge data
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171 in 5 women and 1 in 10 men experience stalking in adulthood linked to domestic abuse
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1883% of high-frequency victims of domestic abuse are women per SafeLives 2022
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19Domestic abuse calls to police increased by 14% during COVID-19 lockdowns per NPCC
Directional
201,314,744 domestic abuse incidents flagged by police in year ending March 2022
Single source
2175% of all domestic violence murders occur when the victim is trying to leave or has left
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2277 women a week are killed by partner/ex-partner in UK per Women's Aid average
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23562 domestic abuse-related homicides between 2012-2022 per ONS data
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2490% of domestic violence is unreported according to Victim Support estimates
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254.3 million domestic abuse incidents estimated annually in England and Wales per Lancet study
Single source
2637% rise in domestic abuse offences recorded since 2019 per ONS 2023
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271 in 3 women worldwide experience domestic violence, UK aligns at 1 in 4 per WHO/ONS
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2845% of domestic abuse victims experienced more than 10 incidents per police data 2023
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292.7 million domestic abuse crimes estimated if all unreported captured per CSEW
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3066,000 children live in homes with domestic abuse annually per NSPCC
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Prevalence Interpretation

These statistics paint a grim portrait of a national crisis happening behind closed doors, where a staggering 37% surge in police-recorded offences and the haunting reality that 1 in 4 adults will face this trauma in their lifetime reveal not just a surge in crime, but a desperate, and often deadly, struggle for safety that remains largely hidden.

Responses

11,000 refuge spaces short of demand per Women's Aid 2023
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2Only 14% of DA victims get specialist support per SafeLives 2022
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35,500 DA Protection Notices issued in first year since 2021 law
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4Conviction rate for DA 76% in 2022 per CPS
Directional
578 new refuge places funded in 2023 budget per Gov.uk
Single source
692% of DA cases do not reach court per Rights of Women
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7IDVAs support 10,000 victims annually per Safelives
Verified
8Clare's Law disclosures 25,000 since 2014 per Home Office
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9350,000 referrals to DA services yearly per Refuge
Directional
10Only 35% of forces meet MARAC standards per NPCC 2023
Single source
11Domestic Abuse Act 2021 led to 20% more injunctions per MoJ
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121.2 million helpline calls to National DA Helpline since 2004
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13Perpetrator programs reach only 5% of offenders per Respect
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1465% victim satisfaction with police response per CSEW
Directional
15£230 million government funding for VAWG 2023-2025 per Gov.uk
Single source
1640% drop in repeat victims with MARAC intervention per audit
Verified
17Only 17% of children in DA homes get child protection plans
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182,700 DAPOs issued in pilot areas per Home Office eval
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19National helpline supports 400,000 women yearly per Refuge
Directional
2050% increase in DA specialist courts since 2017 per judiciary
Single source
21Victim surcharge funds £19 million for services in 2022 per MoJ
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2285% of refuges at full capacity per Women's Aid audit
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23Police referrals to MARACs up 25% post-COVID per NPCC
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24Only 10% male victims access specialist DA services per Mankind
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25125,000 non-molestation orders granted in 2022 per MoJ
Single source

Responses Interpretation

Despite sincere and growing efforts to close the gap, our national response to domestic abuse remains a heartbreakingly clumsy dance, stumbling over a lack of space, funding, and support while valiantly trying to keep pace with the relentless demand and complex needs of those fleeing violence.

Victims

185% of women seeking refuge have children per Women's Aid 2023
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274% of women victims experienced emotional abuse, 73% economic abuse per CSEW 2023
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3Women aged 16-24 are most likely to experience domestic homicide at 37 per million
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41 in 6 women in England and Wales have experienced economic abuse per YouGov 2022
Directional
595% of female victims experienced non-physical abuse vs 88% physical per SafeLives
Single source
6BAME women 66% more likely to experience domestic violence per Women's Aid
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7Disabled women 40% more likely to suffer domestic violence per ONS
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849% of LGBT victims experienced abuse from family members per Galop 2022
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91 in 5 young women aged 18-24 experienced intimate partner stalking per Refuge
Directional
1057% of women victims reported controlling behaviour per CSEW 2023
Single source
11Elderly women over 75 have highest non-sexual offence victimization rate at 5.8%
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122 out of 5 lesbian/gay women experienced domestic abuse per Stonewall
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1370% of women in refuges have mental health issues linked to abuse per Women's Aid
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14Trans women experience 2.5 times higher domestic abuse rates per Galop
Directional
15Pregnant women face 3 times higher homicide risk from partners per Lancet
Single source
1661% of child sexual exploitation victims have experienced domestic abuse
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17Rural women 1.4 times more likely to experience domestic violence per ONS
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1840% of homeless women cite domestic violence as reason for homelessness per Crisis
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191 in 3 female healthcare workers experienced domestic abuse per BMJ 2022
Directional
2076% of women victims never reported to police per CSEW
Single source
21Young women 16-19 have 4% prevalence rate of domestic abuse per CSEW
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2289% of repeat victims are women per NPCC SARCs 2023
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2325% of women experienced domestic abuse before age 18 per Women's Aid
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2450% of female murder victims killed by partner/ex-partner per ONS 2023
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2593% of female domestic homicide victims killed by current/former partner per ONS
Single source
2635% of men victims are aged 25-34 per CSEW 2023
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Victims Interpretation

This chilling mosaic of statistics reveals that domestic abuse is a pervasive, profoundly gendered crisis, where the most vulnerable faces—the young, the marginalized, the pregnant, the elderly—are systematically targeted by a spectrum of violence that often begins with invisible coercion and, for one woman every three days in England and Wales, ends in a funeral arranged by the man who claimed to love her.