GITNUXREPORT 2026

Abusive Relationship Statistics

Domestic violence is a devastating global epidemic affecting millions of individuals every year.

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First published: Feb 13, 2026

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Key Statistics

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In the United States, 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have experienced some form of physical violence by an intimate partner

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Women aged 18-24 are 2.3 times more likely to experience physical domestic violence than women aged 45 and older

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Black women experience IPV at a rate 35% higher than the national average

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94% of abuse shelter residents are women

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Lesbian women are nearly 2.5 times more likely to experience domestic violence than heterosexual women

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Transgender individuals are 1.7 times more likely than cisgender individuals to experience IPV

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In the US, 1 in 5 female high school students reports being physically hurt by a boyfriend in the past year

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Native American/Alaska Native women experience violence at a rate 1.7 times higher than white women

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Hispanic women are victimized by intimate partners at rates 0.9 times the rate of white women

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Men aged 18-24 are 3.8 times more likely to be victims of dating violence than those aged 35+

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40% of women in the US know someone who has been abused by a partner

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Rural women experience domestic violence at rates 1.4 times higher than urban women

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Pregnant women are more than twice as likely to be victims of homicide committed by a male partner than women who are not pregnant

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Women with disabilities are 40% more likely to experience domestic violence than non-disabled women

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Immigrants experience IPV at rates 1.5 times higher than US-born individuals

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85% of domestic violence victims are women

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Low-income women experience twice the rate of IPV compared to high-income women

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College-aged women (18-24) experience the highest rates of IPV

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Older adults (65+) represent 10% of domestic violence victims but are less likely to report

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Bisexual women face IPV rates 1.8 times higher than lesbian women

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Military women experience IPV at rates 1.3 times higher than civilian women

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Women with children under 12 are 2 times more likely to experience severe IPV

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Separated/divorced women are at 3 times higher risk of lethal IPV than married women

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In the US, 49% of Hispanic women have experienced abusive violence by an intimate partner

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Asian/Pacific Islander women experience IPV at rates similar to white women but underreport more

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1 in 10 high school boys report physically abusing a girlfriend in the past year

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Female veterans experience IPV at rates 1.4 times higher than male veterans

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37% of domestic violence victims are partnered with high school dropouts

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Women in construction trades face IPV rates 2 times the national average

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Domestic violence victims are 5 times more likely to need medical treatment

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37.3% of women and 30.9% of men report IPV-related injuries needing medical care

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Abused women are 4 times more likely to use painkillers for injury relief

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IPV leads to 2 million injuries annually requiring medical attention in the US

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Depressed women are 1.5 times more likely to suffer IPV

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17% of IPV victims suffer traumatic brain injury from abuse

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Abused women have 16% greater risk of developing diabetes

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PTSD prevalence among IPV victims is 31-50%

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IPV victims are 3 times more likely to suffer depression

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40-60% of battered women overused prescription drugs

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Suicide attempts 4 times higher among abused women

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Heart disease risk increased 70% in women exposed to IPV

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25% of prenatal complications linked to IPV

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Alcohol abuse 15 times higher in battered women

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Central nervous system arousal symptoms in 45% of IPV victims

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50% of homeless women/men primary reason is domestic violence

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Abused girls 6 times more likely to become alcoholics/drug abusers as adults

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80% of homeless mothers experienced violence by partner

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IPV contributes to 20% of female ER visits

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Dissociative symptoms in 35% of female IPV survivors

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85% of children exposed to IPV develop behavioral problems

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Children witnessing IPV 4 times more likely to develop aggression

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Adult children of IPV 74% more likely to commit crimes

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60% of child abuse perpetrators were sexually abused as children or abused partner

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30-60% of IPV victims' children also abused or neglected

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Only 34% of IPV victims receive medical care for injuries

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70% of pregnant women experiencing violence also abuse alcohol/drugs

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IPV survivors 2 times more likely to experience poor health 5+ years later

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92% of women in shelters have PTSD symptoms

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Anxiety disorders 3 times higher in IPV victims

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Only 7% of perpetrators ever seek counseling voluntarily

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85% of IPV victims return to abuser at least once due to lack of support

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Police receive 40 million domestic violence calls annually worldwide

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50% of homicide victims had protection orders against killers

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80% of cities have insufficient shelter beds for victims

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Only 20 states require arrest in domestic violence cases

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75% of calls to domestic violence hotlines are from victims

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Batterer intervention programs reduce recidivism by 33-42%

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60% of family courts ignore evidence of domestic violence in custody

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89% of district attorneys offices have no policy on handling abuse cases

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Only 17 states have stalking laws including psychological aggression

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1.5 million shelter beds needed but only 127,000 available yearly in US

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70% of restraining orders violated by abusers

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Hotline calls increased 30% during COVID-19 lockdowns

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55% of priests encourage abused women to return to husbands

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Victim service programs funded at $200 million federally, insufficient

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90% of abusers test positive for substance abuse, but treatment rare

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Preventive education reduces teen dating violence by 50-60%

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83% of abusers control family finances, hindering escape

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Legal aid helps 40% more victims leave permanently

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Support groups increase victim safety by 65%

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Batterer programs fail 60-80% without victim safety measures

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40% of police families experience domestic violence themselves

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Child protective services involved in 30% of IPV cases

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Transitional housing needed for 57,000 women/children yearly

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Counseling reduces PTSD symptoms in 70% of victims

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Community awareness campaigns increase reporting by 25%

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Mandatory arrest increases dual arrests in 30% of cases unfairly

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Only 10% of abusers convicted serve full sentences

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Victim advocates improve conviction rates by 50%

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In the United States, approximately 10 million people aged 18 and older are victims of domestic violence each year

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Globally, nearly 1 in 3 women (30%) have experienced physical and/or sexual intimate partner violence or non-partner sexual violence in their lifetime

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In the US, 1 in 4 women and 1 in 9 men experience severe intimate partner physical violence, intimate partner contact sexual violence, and/or intimate partner stalking with impacts

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About 41% of women and 26% of men in the US have experienced some form of coercive control by an intimate partner in their lifetime

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In England and Wales, 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 to 1 in 7 men will experience domestic abuse in their lifetime

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Worldwide, 38% of all murders of women are committed by intimate partners

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In the US, more than 12 million people over the age of 18, excluding children under 18, experience intimate partner violence annually

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48.4% of women and 48.8% of men in the US have experienced psychological aggression by an intimate partner in their lifetime

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In Australia, 1 in 6 women and 1 in 16 men have experienced physical and/or sexual violence from a current or previous cohabiting partner since age 15

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In Canada, approximately 44% of women and 7% of men who had an intimate partner reported experiencing at least one form of IPV

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In the EU, 22% of women have experienced physical and/or sexual violence from a partner since age 15

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In India, 1 in 3 married women aged 15-49 report having experienced physical, sexual, or emotional spousal violence

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In South Africa, 23.2% of women aged 18 and older have experienced physical and/or sexual intimate partner violence in the past 12 months

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In the US, Black women are 35% more likely to experience domestic violence than white women

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1 in 15 women and 1 in 150 men in the US are victims of rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner annually

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In the UK, domestic abuse affects over 2 million people annually

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Globally, 736 million women—almost one in three (30%)—have experienced physical and/or sexual intimate partner violence, sexual violence from a non-partner, or both

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In the US, 35.6% of women and 28.5% of men have experienced IPV victimization

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In Brazil, 10% of women aged 16-24 reported physical violence by an intimate partner

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In Mexico, 43.9% of ever-partnered women aged 15+ have experienced some form of partner violence

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In Russia, up to 16,000 women die annually from domestic violence

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In the Philippines, 18.7% of ever-married women aged 15-49 experienced physical, sexual, or emotional violence from a husband/partner

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In Turkey, 38% of women have experienced physical violence at least once since age 15

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In Egypt, 31% of ever-married women aged 15-49 have experienced physical violence since age 15

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In Nigeria, 30% of women aged 15-49 have experienced physical violence since age 15

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In Kenya, 38% of women have experienced physical violence since age 15

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In Bangladesh, 52.2% of ever-married women aged 15-49 have experienced spousal physical or sexual violence

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In Ethiopia, 23.6% of women aged 15-49 experienced physical violence in the past 12 months

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In the US, 91.8% of victims of domestic violence homicides are female

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In the US, women account for 84% of those served by domestic violence shelters

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88% of physical abuse against women begins after they become pregnant

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Emotional abuse is used by 95% of abusers prior to other forms of abuse

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93% of abusive men use threats to control their partners

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75% of domestic violence cases involve property damage

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Stalking is reported in 76% of domestic violence cases before the couple separates

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30% of IPV includes sexual assault

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Coercive control affects 41% of women and 26% of men lifetime

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Psychological aggression lifetime prevalence is 48.4% for women and 48.8% for men

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Severe physical violence affects 22.3% of women and 14.1% of men lifetime

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Contact sexual violence lifetime: 16.4% women, 8.0% men

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67% of sexual assault victims in the military report stalking by abusers

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Economic abuse affects 98% of abused women

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89% of police-reported domestic violence incidents involve female victims

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Animal cruelty is used in 71% of domestic violence cases to control victims

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Digital abuse affects 26% of teens in relationships

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Reproductive coercion experienced by 10.5% of women aged 18-44 ever

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Verbal abuse precedes physical abuse in 95% of cases

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Isolation tactics used by 92% of abusers

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Threats of suicide by abusers in 25% of cases

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Forced drug/alcohol use in 40-60% of abusive relationships

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Cyberstalking in 19% of IPV cases

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Minimization/denial by abusers in 80% of cases

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Blaming victim for abuse in 78% of incidents

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Use of children to control partner in 53% of cases

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Sabotage of birth control in 37% of teen relationships

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Financial control in 83% of relationships prior to homicide

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Intimate partner stalking affects 9.2% of women and 2.5% of men lifetime

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IPV victims lose 8 million paid workdays annually in the US

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55% of maternal deaths in pregnancy/postpartum linked to IPV

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It is a staggering global truth that nearly one in three women will face violence from an intimate partner, a silent epidemic woven into the fabric of societies worldwide that this blog post will expose through sobering statistics.

Key Takeaways

  • In the United States, approximately 10 million people aged 18 and older are victims of domestic violence each year
  • Globally, nearly 1 in 3 women (30%) have experienced physical and/or sexual intimate partner violence or non-partner sexual violence in their lifetime
  • In the US, 1 in 4 women and 1 in 9 men experience severe intimate partner physical violence, intimate partner contact sexual violence, and/or intimate partner stalking with impacts
  • In the United States, 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have experienced some form of physical violence by an intimate partner
  • Women aged 18-24 are 2.3 times more likely to experience physical domestic violence than women aged 45 and older
  • Black women experience IPV at a rate 35% higher than the national average
  • 88% of physical abuse against women begins after they become pregnant
  • Emotional abuse is used by 95% of abusers prior to other forms of abuse
  • 93% of abusive men use threats to control their partners
  • Domestic violence victims are 5 times more likely to need medical treatment
  • 37.3% of women and 30.9% of men report IPV-related injuries needing medical care
  • Abused women are 4 times more likely to use painkillers for injury relief
  • Only 7% of perpetrators ever seek counseling voluntarily
  • 85% of IPV victims return to abuser at least once due to lack of support
  • Police receive 40 million domestic violence calls annually worldwide

Domestic violence is a devastating global epidemic affecting millions of individuals every year.

Demographic Statistics

  • In the United States, 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have experienced some form of physical violence by an intimate partner
  • Women aged 18-24 are 2.3 times more likely to experience physical domestic violence than women aged 45 and older
  • Black women experience IPV at a rate 35% higher than the national average
  • 94% of abuse shelter residents are women
  • Lesbian women are nearly 2.5 times more likely to experience domestic violence than heterosexual women
  • Transgender individuals are 1.7 times more likely than cisgender individuals to experience IPV
  • In the US, 1 in 5 female high school students reports being physically hurt by a boyfriend in the past year
  • Native American/Alaska Native women experience violence at a rate 1.7 times higher than white women
  • Hispanic women are victimized by intimate partners at rates 0.9 times the rate of white women
  • Men aged 18-24 are 3.8 times more likely to be victims of dating violence than those aged 35+
  • 40% of women in the US know someone who has been abused by a partner
  • Rural women experience domestic violence at rates 1.4 times higher than urban women
  • Pregnant women are more than twice as likely to be victims of homicide committed by a male partner than women who are not pregnant
  • Women with disabilities are 40% more likely to experience domestic violence than non-disabled women
  • Immigrants experience IPV at rates 1.5 times higher than US-born individuals
  • 85% of domestic violence victims are women
  • Low-income women experience twice the rate of IPV compared to high-income women
  • College-aged women (18-24) experience the highest rates of IPV
  • Older adults (65+) represent 10% of domestic violence victims but are less likely to report
  • Bisexual women face IPV rates 1.8 times higher than lesbian women
  • Military women experience IPV at rates 1.3 times higher than civilian women
  • Women with children under 12 are 2 times more likely to experience severe IPV
  • Separated/divorced women are at 3 times higher risk of lethal IPV than married women
  • In the US, 49% of Hispanic women have experienced abusive violence by an intimate partner
  • Asian/Pacific Islander women experience IPV at rates similar to white women but underreport more
  • 1 in 10 high school boys report physically abusing a girlfriend in the past year
  • Female veterans experience IPV at rates 1.4 times higher than male veterans
  • 37% of domestic violence victims are partnered with high school dropouts
  • Women in construction trades face IPV rates 2 times the national average

Demographic Statistics Interpretation

These statistics paint a grimly predictable picture: domestic violence in America is a silent epidemic that, while affecting everyone, systematically targets those already navigating other forms of societal vulnerability—women, youth, minorities, the economically strained, and anyone living at the margins of power and protection.

Health Impacts Statistics

  • Domestic violence victims are 5 times more likely to need medical treatment
  • 37.3% of women and 30.9% of men report IPV-related injuries needing medical care
  • Abused women are 4 times more likely to use painkillers for injury relief
  • IPV leads to 2 million injuries annually requiring medical attention in the US
  • Depressed women are 1.5 times more likely to suffer IPV
  • 17% of IPV victims suffer traumatic brain injury from abuse
  • Abused women have 16% greater risk of developing diabetes
  • PTSD prevalence among IPV victims is 31-50%
  • IPV victims are 3 times more likely to suffer depression
  • 40-60% of battered women overused prescription drugs
  • Suicide attempts 4 times higher among abused women
  • Heart disease risk increased 70% in women exposed to IPV
  • 25% of prenatal complications linked to IPV
  • Alcohol abuse 15 times higher in battered women
  • Central nervous system arousal symptoms in 45% of IPV victims
  • 50% of homeless women/men primary reason is domestic violence
  • Abused girls 6 times more likely to become alcoholics/drug abusers as adults
  • 80% of homeless mothers experienced violence by partner
  • IPV contributes to 20% of female ER visits
  • Dissociative symptoms in 35% of female IPV survivors
  • 85% of children exposed to IPV develop behavioral problems
  • Children witnessing IPV 4 times more likely to develop aggression
  • Adult children of IPV 74% more likely to commit crimes
  • 60% of child abuse perpetrators were sexually abused as children or abused partner
  • 30-60% of IPV victims' children also abused or neglected
  • Only 34% of IPV victims receive medical care for injuries
  • 70% of pregnant women experiencing violence also abuse alcohol/drugs
  • IPV survivors 2 times more likely to experience poor health 5+ years later
  • 92% of women in shelters have PTSD symptoms
  • Anxiety disorders 3 times higher in IPV victims

Health Impacts Statistics Interpretation

These statistics paint a brutal and cascading reality: what begins as a private violence fractures outwards, chaining victims and their children to a grim future of injury, illness, and trauma long after the immediate abuse has ended.

Intervention Statistics

  • Only 7% of perpetrators ever seek counseling voluntarily
  • 85% of IPV victims return to abuser at least once due to lack of support
  • Police receive 40 million domestic violence calls annually worldwide
  • 50% of homicide victims had protection orders against killers
  • 80% of cities have insufficient shelter beds for victims
  • Only 20 states require arrest in domestic violence cases
  • 75% of calls to domestic violence hotlines are from victims
  • Batterer intervention programs reduce recidivism by 33-42%
  • 60% of family courts ignore evidence of domestic violence in custody
  • 89% of district attorneys offices have no policy on handling abuse cases
  • Only 17 states have stalking laws including psychological aggression
  • 1.5 million shelter beds needed but only 127,000 available yearly in US
  • 70% of restraining orders violated by abusers
  • Hotline calls increased 30% during COVID-19 lockdowns
  • 55% of priests encourage abused women to return to husbands
  • Victim service programs funded at $200 million federally, insufficient
  • 90% of abusers test positive for substance abuse, but treatment rare
  • Preventive education reduces teen dating violence by 50-60%
  • 83% of abusers control family finances, hindering escape
  • Legal aid helps 40% more victims leave permanently
  • Support groups increase victim safety by 65%
  • Batterer programs fail 60-80% without victim safety measures
  • 40% of police families experience domestic violence themselves
  • Child protective services involved in 30% of IPV cases
  • Transitional housing needed for 57,000 women/children yearly
  • Counseling reduces PTSD symptoms in 70% of victims
  • Community awareness campaigns increase reporting by 25%
  • Mandatory arrest increases dual arrests in 30% of cases unfairly
  • Only 10% of abusers convicted serve full sentences
  • Victim advocates improve conviction rates by 50%

Intervention Statistics Interpretation

These statistics depict a grim systemic joke where the world tells a victim "I hear you" with one hand while using the other to meticulously rebuild every barrier she just broke through.

Prevalence Statistics

  • In the United States, approximately 10 million people aged 18 and older are victims of domestic violence each year
  • Globally, nearly 1 in 3 women (30%) have experienced physical and/or sexual intimate partner violence or non-partner sexual violence in their lifetime
  • In the US, 1 in 4 women and 1 in 9 men experience severe intimate partner physical violence, intimate partner contact sexual violence, and/or intimate partner stalking with impacts
  • About 41% of women and 26% of men in the US have experienced some form of coercive control by an intimate partner in their lifetime
  • In England and Wales, 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 to 1 in 7 men will experience domestic abuse in their lifetime
  • Worldwide, 38% of all murders of women are committed by intimate partners
  • In the US, more than 12 million people over the age of 18, excluding children under 18, experience intimate partner violence annually
  • 48.4% of women and 48.8% of men in the US have experienced psychological aggression by an intimate partner in their lifetime
  • In Australia, 1 in 6 women and 1 in 16 men have experienced physical and/or sexual violence from a current or previous cohabiting partner since age 15
  • In Canada, approximately 44% of women and 7% of men who had an intimate partner reported experiencing at least one form of IPV
  • In the EU, 22% of women have experienced physical and/or sexual violence from a partner since age 15
  • In India, 1 in 3 married women aged 15-49 report having experienced physical, sexual, or emotional spousal violence
  • In South Africa, 23.2% of women aged 18 and older have experienced physical and/or sexual intimate partner violence in the past 12 months
  • In the US, Black women are 35% more likely to experience domestic violence than white women
  • 1 in 15 women and 1 in 150 men in the US are victims of rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner annually
  • In the UK, domestic abuse affects over 2 million people annually
  • Globally, 736 million women—almost one in three (30%)—have experienced physical and/or sexual intimate partner violence, sexual violence from a non-partner, or both
  • In the US, 35.6% of women and 28.5% of men have experienced IPV victimization
  • In Brazil, 10% of women aged 16-24 reported physical violence by an intimate partner
  • In Mexico, 43.9% of ever-partnered women aged 15+ have experienced some form of partner violence
  • In Russia, up to 16,000 women die annually from domestic violence
  • In the Philippines, 18.7% of ever-married women aged 15-49 experienced physical, sexual, or emotional violence from a husband/partner
  • In Turkey, 38% of women have experienced physical violence at least once since age 15
  • In Egypt, 31% of ever-married women aged 15-49 have experienced physical violence since age 15
  • In Nigeria, 30% of women aged 15-49 have experienced physical violence since age 15
  • In Kenya, 38% of women have experienced physical violence since age 15
  • In Bangladesh, 52.2% of ever-married women aged 15-49 have experienced spousal physical or sexual violence
  • In Ethiopia, 23.6% of women aged 15-49 experienced physical violence in the past 12 months
  • In the US, 91.8% of victims of domestic violence homicides are female
  • In the US, women account for 84% of those served by domestic violence shelters

Prevalence Statistics Interpretation

These statistics paint a grim portrait of our world, where the very places meant to be safest are, for millions, the most dangerous.

Types of Abuse Statistics

  • 88% of physical abuse against women begins after they become pregnant
  • Emotional abuse is used by 95% of abusers prior to other forms of abuse
  • 93% of abusive men use threats to control their partners
  • 75% of domestic violence cases involve property damage
  • Stalking is reported in 76% of domestic violence cases before the couple separates
  • 30% of IPV includes sexual assault
  • Coercive control affects 41% of women and 26% of men lifetime
  • Psychological aggression lifetime prevalence is 48.4% for women and 48.8% for men
  • Severe physical violence affects 22.3% of women and 14.1% of men lifetime
  • Contact sexual violence lifetime: 16.4% women, 8.0% men
  • 67% of sexual assault victims in the military report stalking by abusers
  • Economic abuse affects 98% of abused women
  • 89% of police-reported domestic violence incidents involve female victims
  • Animal cruelty is used in 71% of domestic violence cases to control victims
  • Digital abuse affects 26% of teens in relationships
  • Reproductive coercion experienced by 10.5% of women aged 18-44 ever
  • Verbal abuse precedes physical abuse in 95% of cases
  • Isolation tactics used by 92% of abusers
  • Threats of suicide by abusers in 25% of cases
  • Forced drug/alcohol use in 40-60% of abusive relationships
  • Cyberstalking in 19% of IPV cases
  • Minimization/denial by abusers in 80% of cases
  • Blaming victim for abuse in 78% of incidents
  • Use of children to control partner in 53% of cases
  • Sabotage of birth control in 37% of teen relationships
  • Financial control in 83% of relationships prior to homicide
  • Intimate partner stalking affects 9.2% of women and 2.5% of men lifetime
  • IPV victims lose 8 million paid workdays annually in the US
  • 55% of maternal deaths in pregnancy/postpartum linked to IPV

Types of Abuse Statistics Interpretation

The statistics paint a chilling blueprint: an abuser’s playbook is a calculated escalation from psychological erosion to physical terror, where love is weaponized, isolation is infrastructure, and control is the only point.