One in five Americans has engaged in consensual non-monogamy. Polyamorous individuals report triple the condom use in outside encounters compared to monogamous infidelity. The health and legal outcomes of each relationship style reveal distinct patterns.
Key Takeaways
- The STI transmission rate is statistically lower among CNM practitioners who use "safer sex" agreements than among cheating monogamists
- High-conflict monogamous marriages result in a 20% increase in stress-related health issues
- Domestic violence rates are reported as lower in consensually non-monogamous relationships due to communication emphasis
- People in polyamorous relationships score higher on the 'Big Five' personality trait of Openness to Experience
- Jealousy is reported by 80% of monogamous individuals as a "significant issue" in their relationship
- Polyamorous individuals actively utilize "compersion" (joy at a partner's other love) as a regulatory emotion
- Monogamous marriages have a 40-50% divorce rate in the United States
- Polyamorous triads report an average relationship duration of 6.2 years in a 2018 survey
- Polyamorous triads report "shorter" duration than dyads but with higher initial intensity
- 20% of Americans have engaged in some form of consensual non-monogamy (CNM) at some point in their lives
- 4% of Americans are currently in a polyamorous or open relationship
- 1 in 9 Americans have practiced polyamory at some stage in their life
- Monogamous couples report an average sexual satisfaction score of 72 out of 100
- Polyamorous individuals report a 5% higher average level of psychological well-being compared to monogamous individuals in some studies
- 92% of polyamorous individuals report being "satisfied" with their communication levels
Statistics suggest consensual non monogamy can improve sexual health and communication, while high conflict monogamy harms well being.
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Health and Safety21 stats
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The STI transmission rate is statistically lower among CNM practitioners who use "safer sex" agreements than among cheating monogamists
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High-conflict monogamous marriages result in a 20% increase in stress-related health issues
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Domestic violence rates are reported as lower in consensually non-monogamous relationships due to communication emphasis
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Risk-taking behavior is 10% lower in "stable" monogamous relationships
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12% of polyamorous participants report "legal difficulty" regarding healthcare proxies
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Condom use is 3x higher in polyamorous external encounters vs. monogamous "cheating"
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Suicide rates are lower among married monogamous males than single males
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Physical health markers (blood pressure) are 5% better in "happy" monogamous couples
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Monogamous marriage reduces "poverty risk" by 30% for women
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Monogamous individuals report 10% less "sleep disturbance" than those in active poly negotiations
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Depression rates are 8% lower in "stable" polyamorous networks vs. lonely singles
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Monogamous fatherhood increases life expectancy by 2 years
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STI screening occurs every 3-6 months for 70% of polyamorous people
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Monogamous screening occurs only during pregnancy or new partners for 60%
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Monogamous "infidelity" is the leading cause of homicide in domestic disputes
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Monogamous marriage is the "healthiest" state for middle-aged men
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Monogamous people have a 25% lower risk of cardiovascular disease
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Polyamorous individuals report 5% lower levels of "depression" in late life
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Monogamous marriage reduces the risk of Alzheimer's by 15%
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Monogomous males have lower testosterone than single or poly males
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90% of polyamorous people use "barriers" for oral sex with new partners
Interpretation
Health and Safety Interpretation
The data suggests that the healthiest relationship structure is whichever one is practiced honestly and consensually, as both monogamy and polyamory offer distinct benefits that are largely negated by deception, instability, or loneliness.
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Psychology and Behavior30 stats
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People in polyamorous relationships score higher on the 'Big Five' personality trait of Openness to Experience
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Jealousy is reported by 80% of monogamous individuals as a "significant issue" in their relationship
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Polyamorous individuals actively utilize "compersion" (joy at a partner's other love) as a regulatory emotion
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Only 25% of monogamous men admit to infidelity over their lifetime
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15% of monogamous women admit to infidelity over their lifetime
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Polyamorous people spend an average of 14 hours per week on "emotional processing"
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30% of polyamorous people hide their status from their parents
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Oxytocin levels are found to be equally peaked in both monogamous and polyamorous honeymoon phases
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22% of polyamorous people cite "variety" as their primary motivation
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45% of polyamorous people cite "emotional depth" as their primary motivation
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Monogamous couples report lower levels of "attachment anxiety" on average
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Polyamorous individuals report higher "attachment avoidance" scores in some subsets
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60% of polyamorous people use "Google Calendar" for relationship management
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Monogamous relationships average 2.5 hours of daily interaction
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Polyamorous "kitchen table" dynamics involve weekly shared meals in 40% of cases
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Polyamorous individuals have a 20% higher rate of therapy attendance
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74% of monogamous people believe "soulmates" exist
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Polyamorous people reject the "soulmate" concept at a rate of 80%
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Emotional jealousy is 25% lower in self-identified "poly-aware" individuals
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62% of monogamous people get married for "love"
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80% of polyamorous people believe in "radical honesty"
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22% of monogamous people keep "secrets" from their spouse
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Polyamorous breakups affect an average of 4.5 people emotionally
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Monogamous breakups affect an average of 2 people plus children
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Polyamorous individuals have higher geographic mobility (relocating for partners)
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25% of monogamous people have used a "dating app" while married
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56% of monogamous people say "trust" is the most important factor
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98% of polyamorous people value "communication" over "physical exclusivity"
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Monogamous "jealousy" is cited as "protection of the bond"
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Polyamorous "compersion" training takes an average of 2 years
Interpretation
Psychology and Behavior Interpretation
While polyamory leans into radical honesty and spreadsheets to manage the glorious chaos of multiple loves, monogamy often invests its emotional labor in guarding a single, precious flame against existential fears and forbidden temptations.
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Relationship Longevity15 stats
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Monogamous marriages have a 40-50% divorce rate in the United States
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Polyamorous triads report an average relationship duration of 6.2 years in a 2018 survey
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Polyamorous triads report "shorter" duration than dyads but with higher initial intensity
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2% of monogamous marriages explicitly transition to polyamory after 10 years
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Monogamous cheating is the #1 cause of divorce in the US
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Domestic stability is 15% higher in monogamous homes with children under 5
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Monogamous "serial-monogamy" averages 3.5 years between major partners
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13% of polyamorous relationships last over 15 years
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5% of polyamorous people have a "legal marriage" plus "symbolic ceremonies"
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30% of polyamorous people have been in their current setup for 5+ years
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50% of monogamous people have been married for 20+ years
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5% of polyamorous relationships end due to "legal harassment"
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Monogamous couples report "boredom" after 7 years (the 7-year itch)
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25% of polyamorous people have been in their network for 10+ years
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Monogamous couples have a 60% probability of staying together 15 years
Interpretation
Relationship Longevity Interpretation
While the grand, traditional monogamous marriage often wins the longevity lottery, the pragmatic and legally fraught polyamorous relationship tends to excel in the art of the intense, deliberately chosen medium-term.
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Relationship Prevalence29 stats
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20% of Americans have engaged in some form of consensual non-monogamy (CNM) at some point in their lives
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4% of Americans are currently in a polyamorous or open relationship
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1 in 9 Americans have practiced polyamory at some stage in their life
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32% of LGBTQ+ individuals report an interest in non-monogamy
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34% of polyamorous respondents report having more than two steady partners
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61% of polyamorous people are female-identifying or non-binary in certain convenience samples
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The average age of a polyamorous practitioner is 38 years old
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7% of polyamorous households include three or more cohabitating adults
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40% of polyamorous individuals identify as bisexual or pansexual
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18% of Millennials are currently in "open" relationships
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Polyamorous families report an average of 1.4 children per household
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Monogamous families in the US average 1.9 children
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52% of polyamorous people live in urban areas
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Polyamorous "networks" (polycules) range from 3 to 15 people in size
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8% of polyamorous individuals are in "long-distance" primary relationships
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Monogamous cohabitation is increasing 3x faster than marriage among 20-somethings
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11% of polyamorous people identify as "Solo Poly"
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20% of polyamorous individuals have a "nesting partner"
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Polyamory is more common in the "West Coast" region of the USA
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44% of polyamorous people have children
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18% of polyamorous people consider themselves "Asexual spectrum"
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Polyamorous "parallel poly" (not meeting metas) is practiced by 35%
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Polyamorous people use dating apps (Feeld, OKCupid) at 3x the average rate
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1 in 5 polyamorous relationships involve a "V-structure"
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12% of polyamorous people are in a "Quads" (four-person group)
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Polyamorous "Poly-Fi" (group exclusivity) is practiced by 15%
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18% of polyamorous people live with at least one "metamour"
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2% of the population identifies as "strictly polyamorous"
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7% of poly relationships are "Hierarchy-based"
Interpretation
Relationship Prevalence Interpretation
Despite the growing visibility of polyamory, the statistics reveal it remains a complex mosaic of relationships embraced by a small but diverse minority, while the majority of Americans continue to navigate intimacy within the more traditional framework of monogamy.
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Satisfaction and Well-being20 stats
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Monogamous couples report an average sexual satisfaction score of 72 out of 100
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Polyamorous individuals report a 5% higher average level of psychological well-being compared to monogamous individuals in some studies
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92% of polyamorous individuals report being "satisfied" with their communication levels
04
Monogamous couples attend "couples therapy" at a rate of 12% annually
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25% of monogamous couples experience a "dead bedroom" (sex less than 10 times a year)
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Polyamorous individuals report a higher frequency of sexual activity on average across all partners
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Polyamorous individuals have a 10% higher rate of self-reported "life satisfaction"
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33% of monogamous marriages describe their bond as "extremely happy"
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Polyamorous children show no difference in social adjustment vs. monogamous children
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Monogamous couples report the highest "coital frequency" in the first 2 years
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Polyamorous individuals report more "orgasms per week" across partners
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Polyamorous individuals report a 4/5 satisfaction with "time management"
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33% of monogamous people report "loneliness" within their marriage
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10% of polyamorous people report "overscheduling exhaustion"
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Polyamorous people report higher "sexual agency" and choice
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Monogamous couples report an average of 54 sexual encounters per year
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Polyamorous individuals report an average of 80 sexual encounters per year
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60% of polyamorous people are "satisfied" with their work-life-love balance
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Monogamous "parents" report 20% lower life satisfaction than childless monogamists
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Polyamorous "parenting teams" of 3+ report lower "parental burnout"
Interpretation
Satisfaction and Well-being Interpretation
While polyamory offers tantalizing statistics on satisfaction and excitement, the monogamous model’s deep, if sometimes lonely, stability still claims a significant share of profound happiness, proving that fulfillment in love is less about the structure and more about the specific, messy humans within it.
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Societal Norms and Ethics30 stats
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89% of Americans believe adultery is morally wrong in a monogamous context
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15% of American adults find polygamy to be "morally acceptable"
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Monogamous individuals report higher levels of "financial security" within their relationship structure
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55% of polyamorous individuals have a college degree or higher
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Monogamous marriage is legally recognized in 195 countries
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Polyamory is not legally recognized for marriage benefits in the US
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48% of Gen Z expresses interest in "non-traditional" relationship structures
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Monogamous individuals report 12% higher levels of "perceived social support" from elders
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65% of monogamous people believe non-monogamy is "unnatural"
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Monogamous individuals report 15% higher "legal security" in estate planning
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Monogamy is preferred by 75% of people over age 65
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95% of monogamous marriages expect sexual exclusivity for life
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Community support networks for polyamorous people have grown 400% since 2010
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14% of polyamorous people report "discrimination" in the workplace
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Monogamous engagement rings cost an average of $5,500
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Polyamorous individuals spend 20% more on "dating expenses" annually
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26% of Canadians view polyamory as "acceptable"
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The "Polyamorous" search term on Google has risen 300% since 2012
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Monogamy is the legal standard in all 50 US states
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14% of monogamous people get married for "legal rights"
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Monogamous individuals report higher "religious affiliation" (65%)
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90% of polyamorous practitioners identify as "spiritual but not religious" or "atheist"
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Monogamous people have a 20% higher chance of "owning a home" by age 40
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Monogamy results in "wealth accumulation" of $100k more over a lifetime
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Polyamorous individuals average a 12% higher "income" in some urban surveys
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Social stigma causes 50% of poly people to "self-censor" at work
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Polyamory is recognized as a protected class in 2 US cities (Somerville/Cambridge)
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Monogamous marriage saves $1,000s in "tax benefits" annually
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Polyamorous people share "utility costs" among 3+ people in 20% of cases
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Monogamy is the "ideal" relationship for 65% of high school students
Interpretation
Societal Norms and Ethics Interpretation
While monogamy builds its castle on the solid, legally-mortared bedrock of financial security and social approval, polyamory is busy weaving its own vibrant, if more precarious, tapestry in the growing rooms of urban acceptance and educated idealism.
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